Codependent no more: how to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself

A twenty-fifth anniversary message from Melody Beattie

Author's preface to the 2001 fifteenth anniversary edition

Author's preface to the 1992 edition

Introduction

What's codependency, and who's got it? Jessica's story ; Other stories ; Codependency ; Codependent characteristics

The basics of self-care. Detachment ; Don't be blown about by every wind ; Set yourself free ; Remove the victim ; Undependence ; Live your own life ; Have a love affair with yourself ; Learn the art of acceptance ; Feel your own feelings ; Anger ; Yes, you can think ; Set your own goals ; Communication ; Work a twelve step program ; Pieces and bits ; Learning to live and love again

Epilogue.

Pt. 1. What's codependency, and who's got it? My story

Other stories

Codependency

Codependent characteristics

pt. 2. The basics of self-care. Detachment

Don't be blown about by every wind

Set yourself free

Remove the victim

Undependence

Live your own life

Have a love affair with yourself

Learn the art of acceptance

Feel your own feelings

Anger

Yes, you can think

Set your intention

Communication

Work a Twelve Step program

Pieces and bits

Soothe yourself

Learning to live and love again.